Eight troubles to invade children
The eight major worries of young children surveyed this time are: poor academic performance and no confidence to learn well (36).
9%); total homework (34%).
8%); parents only know that they care about their academic performance and cannot understand us (32%); parents do n’t let me play and do n’t have time to play (31%); they only like computer games, other activities are not interesting (26%)Feeling lonely without friends (21).
8%); father and mother always quarrel, unhappy family atmosphere (18.
4%); suspected teachers are eccentric, unfair, arbitrary, harsh, shy, so do not like teachers (16.
The eight major worries will have a certain degree of impact on the child. Impact one: Once students lose confidence in learning, they will inevitably underestimate themselves.
Such children will often compare their own weaknesses to the strengths of others, so they always feel that they are inferior to others. The more they are more discouraged, they will have a sense of inferiority.
Those who are light make them stand back in the face of difficulties, and those who are serious may even be decadent, outdated and distorted.
Impact two: Adolescents are burdened with heavy psychological pressure due to their heavy learning burden.
Some adolescents can’t bear these psychological pressures, sometimes show unusual resistance, form domestic violence, and have very few thoughts, even negative suicide.
Impact # 3: Because children’s free time is difficult to obtain, almost all of their time is spent on learning, but this passive behavior will increase their stress and mental burden, and their true interests, hobbies, and valuable achievementsMay be suppressed.
Stress will greatly reduce their passion for life, and life becomes more and more boring.
Impact 4: Parents are the students’ first teachers. Some parents often reprimand their children because they neglect to communicate with their children, making children afraid of their parents and lack of emotional communication.
The child cannot get help when faced with difficulties, and cannot be encouraged when faced with setbacks, which makes the child have a sense of “depression” and “a sense of grievance.”
Impact 5: Many parents and teachers often only value their children’s academic performance. The direct consequence of this is the psychological pressure balance of the students, and computer games allow students to achieve their goals according to their own intentions, which makes them happy.An important psychological reason for students’ obsession with computer games.
However, due to the unhealthy content of many games now, and the lack of judging ability of young people to discern things, it can easily lead to the incompleteness of personality development.
Impact 6: Because the current family education and school education focus on academic performance, students’ academic burden and psychological pressure are relatively heavy, and the growth of the only child is relatively lonely, making the Internet a lot of young people to avoid the burden and pressure to find psychological supportThe “air-raid shelter” and indulged in it can not extricate themselves.
Impact 7: The family is the first school of the person. Due to the change of marriage and family, the family is not harmonious and biased, and it is easy for the child to become the affection from parents. This situation is not serious.It can even lead to minors committing crimes.
Impact eight: Due to the lack of communication between some teachers and students, teachers cannot understand the actual situation of students, and students do not understand the goals that teachers want to achieve.
Therefore, the two parties cannot collide, can’t attract interaction, and lack emotional communication.
Over time, this will cause students to dislike teachers, and it will be easier for students to lose their confidence in learning and their motivation to move forward.
Deputy Chief Physician Zhang Ye said that whether or not adolescents are happy is an important sign of their healthy growth.
Today’s children have deeper psychological distress than their predecessors. The pressure of learning makes them breathless. They have no companions at home, and they have a good environment and loneliness to accompany them.
Adolescents have experienced psychological problems again, and it is advisable to take appropriate measures to provide additional counseling.
Parents and teachers should not discriminate and ridicule children when their academic studies fail temporarily. Instead, they should collect their learning potential and give them more encouragement, so that they can strengthen their self-confidence, allow children to experience the success of learning, and taste the hardships of learning.And share the joy of success with them in a timely manner.
In addition, the communication of the mind, the exchange of emotional experience, and the collision of thought sparks are also very important. You should try to have a 20-30 minute chance to speak with your child every day. Learn what activities they have in school, what are their experiences and feelings?
In addition, the harmonious family relationship, the kindness of teachers, and humor naturally make teenagers and children have a happy mood both in the family and in school.